{Friendship Friday} One-sided Relationships…

This topic has been on my mind for sometime now. I’ve always wondered why certain relationships are one-sided. You know the type where you give give give and give but get nothing in return. Of course I’m not talking about physical giving but time, love, affection and you get nothing in return.

A few years ago I made the decision – if I give I need to be given too. Imagine being in a relationship where you are always the one to make the first move, it does become exhausting and probably makes the other person feel less loved.

I’ve always thought that in life you give what you get but I’ve learnt the hard way that it is not always like that!

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Picture taken earlier today – a rainbow in our concrete jungle

I’ve actually cut out a few people from my life for that exact reason. And I’m doing that on a regular basis. Hard core but it works for me. With 2 friends I actually went through our chat history and I realised they had never ever ever ever ever sent me a message to check up on me or say hello. They only say hello if I say hello first! And yet another friend only ever says hello when she needs something. Said friend sent me a message last December and said she would come see Kanyin, it’s November and in still waiting!!! Hopefully before Baby turns 10 she will come.

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View from the train on the commute to work today

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Sunset on the way home yesterday

I have a big love tank but it needs to be replenished

Of course I know once in a while people have stuff going on in their lives and just need space to deal with whatever they are going through but I believe if someone is dear to you, you WILL and CAN find a few seconds to send a quick message to say hello and let a friend know you are thinking of them

Are you like me or you have a tank so full and overflowing you are ok to give give give and get nothing in return. Please tell me I am not alone. And if you are that type of friend to someone make time today to send a quick sms or email to say hello – it might just be what they need t make their day that much better

Hope you have a nice and restful weekend xxx

{Monochrome Monday} on Wednesday…

Marcia is currently doing a monochrome Monday theme. She has some stunning pictures up (definitely more variety than I do) :) :)

Before I knew better I used to take lots of black and white pictures, then a photographer friend told me to rather take it in colour and use available software to change colors if I want to. Now that’s what I do…

Enough talking, some pictures

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And yes I love selfies…. Please tell me I am not alone :lol: :lol:

Hope you are having a good week?

Deprivation…

I had a long conversation with another mom last week on a number of baby related topics –

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This was the picture that started a 45 mins conversation. I showed her pictures of K and she was shocked that she had a plate of vegetables in front of her and seemed to be eating it too. I was shocked that she was shocked. Of course as parents we started talking about food and her next question to me was what variety of pur.ity K eats. K doesn’t eat it and as long as I have a choice she won’t eat it. Cue more shock. She said I was depriving my child of knowing tasty food! I’ve tasted two or three varieties and aside from not liking the way it looks I hated that I couldn’t tell what flavour I was eating. Pur.ity is a local brand of off the shelf baby purées

I proceeded to ask her a few questions which I hope convinced her that home cooked meal must be better than any store bought jar food for more than one reason but most importantly how I know what goes into what my child is eating and how it definitely is more affordable to make my own food. I prefaced my conversation with her that I don’t judge anyone because we all make choices and decide what works for us.

I love cooking so making apple purée or baked pumpkin or steamed peas or bean pudding for my child is not hard work in my books. Each to their own

Then she asked if K drinks warm water, yes she does. And she was shocked to know that she drinks the water plain like that and without added brown sugar. I’m still yet to understand why I need to add sugar to water to make it tasty for a child when I drink plain water everyday! Again I was told I am depriving my child by given her plain warm water and not sugar infused water – hmmmmm

I showed her pictures of K enjoying homemade food and while she commented on it being good she said she couldn’t deal with the mess. Mess is the least of my worries, if I have to choose between a picky eater and a messy eater that eats, I know what I would choose.

BEFORE

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AFTER

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Content face after having lactose free plain yoghurt

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That’s the only kind of yoghurt I can take so usually what I’ll have at home when I can find it

I’m no food police, but while I wont consciously feed my child junk I’m not averse to her eating it in every blue moon. She had flings 2 Saturday’s ago, Marcia and Robyn laughed at me because I didn’t have any idea what flings what. She did have a “cupcake” on her birthday with loads of sprinkles. What I make sure of is that the majority of what we consume as a family is wholesome home made food.

Miss K was here…

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And you know this conversation had to end with talk of poop ! Yes that’s when you know you are a mom/dad (a dad joined us during this conversation) when you go from talking about food to talking about poop and how to relieve constipation! Ha joys of parenthood

That my friends is how I found out my poor K is deprived :)

Saturday Snapshots {TEXTURE}…

Only more than a few days late! I’m using the mantra better late than never. Joining Marcia as usual for this month’s challenge

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IMG_2256.JPG the sky is so smooth I feel like I could rub my cheeks against it

Hope you are having a good week? I am but I’m exhausted and need the weekend to be here like yesterday.

Enjoy what’s left of the week xxx

Good things happen in threes…

Well then it seems bad things happen in fours (or maybe it is just me)

Yesterday was an interesting day.

Woke up bright and early, got some early morning cuddles with baby (daddy was out of town)

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IMG_0150.JPG morning selfie with the little miss before getting ready for work

Got ready for work, was rushing to be able to get in good time since I had plans to leave work in good time… Wishful thinking man proposes God disposes…

Thing 1: press the remote to open the gate it didn’t work, no big deal I know how to override, get down on my knees , open gate motor, press override nothing, tweak a few buttons, still nothing. Push, shove, pull gate wouldn’t budge! Hmmm I call the office PA to tell her I would be late need to get the technician to come fix gate. While chatting to her I notice thing 2!

Thing 2: I have a flat tyre – weird how did that happen . I must have picked up something that punctured the tyre because it was completely flat. So I tell PA I will try get a taxi and head to work. PA says “my dear, that’s a sign stay home and get your work done” I shall let the boss know you are working from home. Good thing I have access to be able to work from home. Granted I can do an ok job of fixing the tyre I did learn at 15 because my dad made me, in his words if you can drive you have to be able to change a tyre .

Technician is running late, fault with his car!!!

What did I do

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I stayed home and got lots of work done. Though I had to use my data (not cheap) but I can’t eat my cake and have it. I was not ready to take a taxi. It was a busy work day and I blazed through it with minimal distraction ( food for thought, all those side office chit chats while good for human interaction means less efficiency )

And being home I got to see this child wake up from her nap and I think she was happy to see me too

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That was her attempt at smiling when she woke up. Isn’t she just too cute!!!

Thing 3: after work was all done I decided to take a walk, I was getting cabin fever. Pack baby up in stroller check, change into work out gear check, open pedestrian gate to get out check. Lock pedestrian gate, no check – twist and turn – key broke into the lock! Damn . Hubby is still not back . Call locksmith he can fix it but needs to be paid in cash. BTW I saved the locksmith’s name in my phone as Locksmith Expensive – ha I’m sure there was a reason for that. Call out R450 , lock R295 after lots of exclaiming he gave me a whole R45 discount ($1=R11.1) . It doesn’t sound a lot but who carries so much cash around. These artisans need to move with the times and get pocket pos so they can accept cards for payments.

So my little companion and I head out for a quick 5km (through and fro) to the ATM to draw cash – then thing 4 happened

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Thing 4 – ATM not working!!! Luckily there was another bank’s ATM (I don’t know about you but I hate drawing cash and I even hate it more drawing from another bank’s ATM). Get cash rush back home, mr expensive is there. He fixes the gate in a whooping 5 minutes or less . I shuddered when I handed over the cash but I felt safer knowing my gate was locked again and won’t be left opened overnight!!!

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Beautiful sunset while walking back from the ATM!

And that my friends was how I spent my Friday and how I concluded bad things must happen in fours :lol: :lol:

Hope you are having a nice weekend

Ps: technician only made it to fix the gate today!

{Saturday Snapshots} PATTERNS

Joining the lovely Marcia for our now monthly photo challenge. The challenge for this month is PATTERNS

These batch of pictures were all taken today

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And these at random times

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I hope you are having a nice and restful weekend. Hope you play along xxx

Something I learnt…bubhub

Every now and then different departments in my office have a departmental week, a few weeks back it was the turn of the security dept. as expected they had some security experts come in to give 1 hour talks! I was skeptical but I needed the short break (don’t tell my boss)- and went ahead to listen . Very low turn out because no food or drinks were served (that’s always a good draw card)

Wow!!! I learnt I lot and got a big fright at some of the things they said. If you live in SA you know security is a big issue anyway…

Here are some of the things

I leave my house keys in the car and my GPS – no big deal! The big deal is I set home on the GPS to my house – yikes I never thought about it! Now I’ve deleted home from my GPS because really I’m sure I can’t get lost going to my house and if I did, I can set the GPS to somewhere close enough that I can still find the direction home! Lesson learnt

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Second lesson always have flat/running shoes in the car, if your car breaks down and no help is nearby at least have shoes that you can walk a few Kilometers in if necessary

Never let your fuel tank go less than half ( I aim for quarter) in case you are being followed and you need to keep driving . And for that have a plan ahead of time, and know the direction to your nearest police station

Try use different routes when you drive home and always pay attention to your surrounds (many of us are guilty of being on auto pilot when we drive home especially after a long day at work)

if you feel you are being followed try change route and see if the car follows you, slow down enough to be able to see the occupants and the license plate no! This one is hard especially if it is in the dark because seriously looking at the plate number of another car would be the least of my worries. However, if feel I’m being followed I just keep driving

If you have a security system (alarm, electric fence etc) at home test it periodically to make sure it works and that all members of your household know how it works and most importantly where the panic button is. What is the use of having a security system if it doesn’t work or members of the household don’t know how it operates.

If you are being hijacked and it is not at gunpoint, ram the car into a gate or wall (if it is safe to do so) the hijacker (if he is after your car probably doesn’t want a damaged car) and also make sure once kids are old enough they are schooled not too argue or start whining when they are given instructions by mom or dad (or a caregiver) in a situation that seems dangerous

One many women are guilty of – get in the car and drop your bag on the passenger seat!!! Aim to either have it under your seat or preferably in the boot. Number one reason for smash and grab-is to smash your windows and grab your bag or cellphone

And now with smart phones most of us (we know ourselves) always feel the need to be “on” all the time ! Good but be safe. I’m sure you can wait for a few minutes to get home or to the office or where ever you are heading. Nothing is serious enough that it can’t wait. I think as a people we have gotten more lax with security especially as it concerns phone. I see lots of people during my commute who are glued to their phone or tablets and not just on the train, even while walking. Seems we have forgotten about the dangers lurking around – pickpockets about everywhere

And one last one I remember – when you are trying to surrender, avoid eye contact with the perpetrators and if asked to hands up (if you are taller than said human) raise your hands to your shoulders – not above your head as you get even much taller if hands are raised up completely above your head – hmmm I found this very interesting.

I am sure there were more tips but I didn’t write down (as is usual for me). These tips I remember from off hand.

If this helps just one person then I’m very happy! Do you have anything else you would add?

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Just some random beautiful sights on my morning 7km walk yesterday

Ps: the not sure where the bubhub came from but well it sounded rad so I left it