A naturalist! Natural hair that is….

Many people are always surprised to find out I have natural hair! Yes you might not see it but it is there.

My mama (please her soul) always wanted me to have natural hair when she decided she was done with chemicals in her more than 25 years ago but of course I didn’t listen because back in the day it wasn’t cool to have kinky hair. Every one wanted pin straight sleek easy to comb hair! Plus there just weren’t products in the market for our hair type!!

Fast forward to 2015 I became an unintentional naturalist. The last time I had relaxer applied to my hair was November 2014! Yes almost 5 years

Getting the hair fried (aka relaxing)

I just didn’t have the time to drive at least 45 mins each way plus the 2-3 hours it took to get my hair done every two to three months with a little new born to take care of. And after not relaxing for about a year let’s just say my hair made the journey

Mid way. Part relaxed. Part natural

Now I have a big Afro which I’m very proud of. There are many products on the market geared towards our hair type and this makes life so much easier plus I don’t stress if water touches my hair because water is your friend when you have natural hair.

I’m still quite a lazy naturalist which is why I wear a wig most week days because I would rather sleep in or go for a quick walk than spend an hour in the morning getting my Afro tamed to meet the world

The wigs always come out to help the lazy naturalist

It helps that I have the same hair as my child as it is a big challenge raising a girl child in a fashion conscious world who doesn’t understand why her hair cannot be like Elsa’s or Rapunzel’s! Yes I’ve been asked that more than once.

Afro chics

Afro chics

We wear our hair with pride …


I was scrolling through IG as one does and came across a competition and I thought what do I have to lose if I enter and don’t win . NOTHING! but if I win I’ll be mommy of the year to my 5.5 year old for a few weeks 😆 So I entered right here..

Real Life Mum competition

And I WON tickets. 4 tickets to

Disney on Ice 2019

I only have one child that is old enough to appreciate the show, so we had two tickets to spare. It was school holidays for my friend’s kids, I asked if they would love to go! Their mom was like YES, is that a rhetorical question 🙂 🙂

We hatched a plan. It would be a surprise for the kids! And a real big surprise it was! They loved spending time together and watching the show! they found out where they were going only about 5 minutes to the start of the show!!! More winning …

Some pictures from the day out (it was worth taking K out of school mid day for)

Mid show mama and child selfie

Beauty on stage

So much talent

Ogling the toys but this mama wasn’t budging on the no toys deal

Three years on still a firm favourite of the kids

Goofball!! Trying to ice skate without ice! Imagination

Olaf is my favourite! Who doesn’t like warm hugs

So much fun!

It was a lovely day out all in all


• everything about the show!

• Surprising the girls!

Girls old enough to know why they can’t get more toys (they have enough toys as it is)!

• Despite only getting slushies they thought it was the best day out


• overpriced toys!

• Traffic getting in (should learn to get their earlier next time).

• I missed seeing Lion King and Dory on ice

To tell you how much fun it is I’ve been asked more than once when we are going again

Life lately…



Just bothering his sis

You know you have been too busy and missing in action when the running app reminds you that you haven’t been on the road in over 7 days!  Time to rectify that! Yes it doesn’t help that it is so dark in the mornings but add to that a 5 yo with a busy school and extra curricular schedule, a 13 month old who has discovered the joy of toddling around, hectic work schedule and a move! The house move requires a whole post of its own … phew!!!!

On the plus side I’m enjoying the colder weather!!! It was a glorious 4C (40F) the other day

Anything interesting happening in your neck of the wood?







It’s the little things…

Kids can be difficult to please most times but I find that some times it’s the little things that make them happy and tickles their fancy!!!!

Today, K had a somewhat busy day – swimming, health check with daddy – which turned into a 3 hour plus Daddy/daughter date and birthday party (plus I thrive on being busy so cue more things added) but some plans got changed and we were home earlier than planned

Because you need to dress the part to decorate a Christmas tree

On getting home she reminded me we needed to decorate our tree (yes same tree that is out all year round). The usual me would make a big deal out of tree decorating – the right outfit (aka pretty dress, right light for pictures etc (I know I can’t be the only one that does this 😉 😉 but I figured why not. So I whipped out the box of baubles and we set to work.

My child was super happy and declared it was a wonderful day – she had a sit down lunch date with daddy instead of the usual hurried lunch, she decorated the Christmas tree to her heart content … (I have a post brewing about Christmas tree decorating)

And at bed time she asked if we could sleep in the lounge. Normally, I would say no but I could see it meant a lot to her so as I type this she is lightly snoring away on the couch right next to me . Plus it’s weekend and we can relax the rules a bit

What little things make you and those around happy? Are you rigid or flexible once in a while ?

Recent Conversations with K…

Sometimes the things my child says leaves me in awe, but most importantly I don’t want to forget them, so I write down.

K: hello mommy

Me: hello baby

K: I’m not a baby

Me: but you are

K: I’m a big girl

Me: no you are not big

K: ok mommy then I’m a medium girl


K: good morning mommy

Me: it’s afternoon so good afternoon

K: I want it to be Morning

Me: ok, if that is what you want

Me: how was school today

K: it was good thanks

Me: what did we do today at school (I always say we which she finds hilarious because she reminds me it is just her)

K: no mommy you should ask who I played with ( my child is a creature of habit, I always ask that as a conversation starter and now she wants all talk about school to start with who did you play with)

Me: ok who did you play with at 1st play time

K: M

Me: and second playtime

K: M (bursts out laughing) it is almost always M except the few times they “fight” and are longer best friends which usually lasts for less than 24 hours

Me: and at snack time

K: we don’t play at snack time we eat mommy

Me: and sometimes you talk

K: yes but that makes Ms M heart sore

Me: heart sore? Why?

K: because she says less talking more eating, but I sometimes say more talking less eating

Oy oy oy child of mine, we have to work on that rebel streak because she thinks it is funny


K: what surprise did you bring for me today? A surprise egg?

Me: did you open my bag

K: no i didn’t

Me: so how did you know I have an egg

K: I’m very clever mommy


K: are we going to the gym

Me: no, not today. As we have your brother and aunt in the car

K: but we can all go

Me: no they don’t have gym cards so we have to go home

K: I have an idea, can we drop them at home, then relax a bit and then me and you can go back to the gym

Me: that’s a good idea but not today child as it’s been a long day so we would just go Home and rest and prepare for

Bed and school tomorrow

K: ok mommy, did you like my idea

Me: yes I did

K: thank you, I’m a genius

Loving this age

Currently Reading…

I don’t write much about reading because I find I have a vastly different reading taste to most people I know. We might have a book here and there that overlap but most times not really.

So I was complaining to the one person who’s reading style is somewhat similar to mine (my baby sister) and she gifted me a few e-books. Mind you she knows I don’t enjoy e-books as I like paper but with a new Baby, I have to say e-books have been a life saver. I only need one hand to scroll and I can multitask while reading

Typically I like easy reads that don’t require much thinking and act as a good get away and usually fiction. Life has too much to deal with that I don’t want to get bogged down reading something intense

I read Born a Crime in 2 days. It’s been a long long time ago a book gripped me that much! I just couldn’t put it down. (I stayed up till way past my bed time just to finish it) I laughed so much I had tears streaming down my eyes. Of course this was until I got to the parts on domestic violence (sob sob). I would highly recommend this book. I didn’t know what to expect when I started and I didn’t read any spoilers so it was a pleasant read

Now I’m reading When Breath becomes Air.

I’ve heard so much about this book and I even bought a copy last year which I gave to a colleague to read and never got back, so when I got the e version I couldn’t wait to dig in. This one I know how it ends but nothing much else and I’m currently midway and I have to say I’m learning a lot about empathy and human nature… can’t wait to finish it

After this though I would need a good easy fiction to help me unwind. I started two Liane Moriaty books ( Truly Madly Guilty & Big Little Lies) and I’m battling. They start too slow for me. I like books that get straight to the crux of it. I’ve started both and I think I stopped on page 25 and just couldn’t go on but I promised myself I would finish them. Don’t know if it is me as most people I know loved these books

Have you read any of these books? What did you think? What are you currently reading? Would you recommend it ?

Father’s Day 2018…

The little lady finally understands this day, helped in part by school and church. They made picture frames and hand print crafts for Dad and she couldn’t wait to give it to him.

The little mister, well at 10 weeks old is totally clueless but it was his first Father’s Day so we celebrated by dressing up and taking some pictures (not like we need any excuses for pictures)

All dressed up

Smile ….

Father and child number 2

We had a few meltdowns though… firstly Daddy wasn’t home when we got home so he couldn’t get his gift on Friday , then Saturday wasn’t Sunday? She couldn’t resist any longer so Daddy got his gift on Saturday but had to promise not to open it till Sunday.

Added to that Ms M ( her teacher) gave very strict instruction of what do that … get a good night sleep, wake up early and wake mommy up (I don’t like that part of the instruction), make coffee for Daddy (we made tea as we don’t drink coffee, K thinks we are allergic to coffee) and wake him up to drink his tea and open his gift!!

My child can be a stickler for rules when it suits her and she followed this to the letter!!! And even made eggs for him because she thought he would be hungry

Frying eggs for Daddy

Breakfast for Daddy complete with white flowers

Daddy had to get his gift in bed

Once gifts were opened we headed to church, came back home for lunch and just rested.

Little lady and her daddy

Trying Chef Barbie’s hat on little brother

It was a good day ….

ps: K wants to know why we have daddy’s (Aka Father’s) Day but no Kid’s day. She wasn’t convinced youth day is Kids day